February 2024 Message

In the Torah, the word herem is a most interesting word.  We are familiar with its use as a term of banishment, a Jew put in herem was exiled from the community.  However it can also mean something sacred, no one but the priests are allowed to touch it. The connection between these apparently opposite meanings is the idea that a herem item is untouchable for the common person.

There are very few modern examples of Herem except perhaps for one word – the N-word, so atrocious that we don’t even say the whole word to point out it is atrocious. Yet if you listen to hip hop, the word is not uncommon.

One of the smartest and funniest shows on TV for the last 20 years has been South Park.  What is so clever about this show is that the viewer is never really sure if the creator’s on my side of the issue at hand or making fun of my side?

An outstanding example of this was an episode from 2007 called “With Apologies to Jesse Jackson” about the proscription of the N-word.  One of the adult main characters uses the word in an embarrassing attempt to solve a clue on a nationally live televised game show.  This leads to complete ostracism.  But like so many people who use insulting language, soon the character feels that he is the victim for suffering such contempt.  In a second story, the main child character, Stan, the son of the man who used the word, apologizes to the one black student in the school.  When the black student does not seem to be appeased, Stan gets frustrated, “My dad said he was wrong for using the word, and he apologized, so everything should be ok now.”  But the black student recognizes that Stan has no understanding of the pain such language used by white people inflicts on Black people.  Being South Park, while it is clearly criticizing white people who believe they should be exonerated after apologizing for using this word, the show also voiced the actual N-word 43 times.

But the creators do let you know what their message is at some point.  In this episode, Stan has tried every which way to convince Tolkien, the black student, to accept the apology and make everything okay again, but Tolkien repeatedly tells him you can apologize but I can’t let it go.  Finally, Stan screams out, ‘I don’t get it!’ And that is when he has his epiphany.  He turns to Tolkien and says, “Tolkien, now I get it.  I don’t get it.”  To which Tolkien finally says, “Now you understand”.  What he means is that the use of that term is hurtful to Black people in ways that a white person can never understand.  It is not as simple as saying, “I goofed, I should not have used that term”.  Because the pain such a term, coming out of the mouth of a white person, given the history of race and racism in this nation, cannot be appreciated by the white person.  The hurt is too deep, too layered for an apology, even a sincere one, to wash the hurt away.

Watching this show the other night, I had my own epiphany.  We Jews have been so hurt, have felt so abandoned, in the weeks since the October 7 massacre. Mass rallies attacking Israel, internet and social media arguing that Hamas was justified in their savagery because “resistance” of any kind is acceptable for liberation. We have been in shock to watch younger Jews stand with those who seek the destruction of Israel.  People who, in the face of growing intolerance in the country and around the world, have invoked the Holocaust to say they would stand with the vulnerable and the oppressed, shared platforms with Hamas supporters days after the massacre.  International women’s groups meeting the very week of the massacre, neglected to acknowledge the brutalization and sexual abuse of Jewish women by Hamas and the “innocent” Palestinians who joined in the pogrom.  And most recently, the farce before the International Criminal Court in The Hague that Israel is guilty of genocide as if Israel is not locked in a vicious war against a quasi-government terrorist organization that has vowed in its charter to exterminate the Jewish people.

And then, like Stan in South Park, I finally got it – they don’t get it.

Try as they might, non-Jews just don’t understand.  I have often fantasized what it must be like to be a part of a people or community that never worries about the possibility that their people might be exterminated, suffering real genocide.  What a sense of inner calm and existential confidence that must bring. What must it be like to go to your place of worship and not go through security guards?  Or not have to promote your congregation’s programming in private because it is too dangerous to let the public know. Or not to live your life checking for unusual cars near your home or packages you receive because - “just to be safe”.

Years ago, when our family travelled in Europe, we were advised not to wear kipot when we were out, it might cause a problem.  As if we were the problem.  And we marveled how Muslim families also travelling, had no fear of dressing in their traditional garb.  Only Jews were in danger.  If you are not a Jew, you just don’t get it.

Some have suggested that it is epigenetics –years of trauma from the Holocaust and pogroms which have affected the DNA of Jews – which cause Jews to react, based on that historic trauma, even if they themselves are living in a safe space.  Possibly, though not all Jews in the United States come from Holocaust-affected families.  Let me suggest another reason why non-Jews don’t get it when we Jews get anxious.  It comes from the world of sports betting – the trend is your friend.  If a team, that plays in a dome stadium, loses 8 games in a row playing in an outdoor stadium, bet on them to lose a ninth time playing outdoors.  When Jews who have been persecuted, oppressed, exiled from every Diasporan community that we have ever lived in, hear the chant “from the river to the sea, Palestine will be free”, don’t be shocked that we don’t hear, as Congresswoman Rashida Tlaib would have us believe, that it means Palestinians and Jews living happily together in the same territory. We understandably hear ‘one holocaust was not enough.’

The hypocrisy of anti-Semitism is apparent to anyone who cares to look.  At the Congressional hearing on anti-Semitism, the three University presidents all condemned anti-Semitism but struggled with a very serious issue – how to allow free expression on their campus while protecting vulnerable groups.  What they did not acknowledge is that in cases on their campuses where free expression espoused views that were opposed to racial diversity, LGBTQ sexuality, or feminism such clubs or speakers were either punished or hounded out the door (NYTimes, Brett Stephens, December 8).  In calling for death to Israel, however, free speech must rule.

We know that anti-Semitism is a unique hatred.  Capitalists accuse Jews of spearheading socialism, Communists see Jews as the bearers of capitalism.  White racists hate Jews for polluting the white race, people of color see Jews incorrectly as the epitome of whiteness, despite the reality that we Jews constitute every hue made possible by melatonin.  We get it from all sides.  When Israel attempted to minimize civilian deaths and told civilians to leave in order to spare lives, they were condemned for ethnic cleansing and now genocide.  And while any number of innocent people killed in war is too many, if thousands of civilian Palestinians is genocide, where are the claims of genocide against 200,000 dead civilians in Ukraine or 500,000 dead in Syria, or 2 million Uyger Muslims enslaved in China.  And why is Israel the only one who can end the war?  Why doesn’t the International Court or the UN demand that the hostages be immediately returned to Israel unconditionally and then we can all agree to argue for a ceasefire. 

Ultimately, there is one source for the anti-Semitism in this post-State of Israel world.  Power.  Jews are not supposed to be powerful.  In both Christian and Muslim worlds, Jews are to be compliant and subservient.  We are allowed to exist, and if the overlords are decent, we are even allowed to succeed financially and professionally.  But we Jews are not supposed to be masters of our own history.  The state of Israel changed that. 

Sadly, that means Israel can be as pathetic and despotic as every other country in the world.  But it also means that Israel can rise up and be the kind of nation that makes Jews proud and proves to be a light unto the nations.  Israel over the past 75 years has done both. 

We just celebrated the holiday of Hanukkah.  Yes, the revolt led by the Maccabees against the dictatorial Seleucid empire was a victory for any small nation that wished to observe its culture and faith without oppression and imposition of foreign values.  But their revolution also led to corruption and internal persecution by their Hasmonean descendants, which led to welcoming the Roman conquerors in and 2000 years of painful exile.  We Jews have had this choice before so we know the consequences of power.  But there is a big difference between being the hammer and the nail. 

For Jews in Diaspora and in the Land of Israel, we no longer cower hoping that the anti-Semites will die out or go away or find a reason to like us.  Because Israel exists, we know that it is our choice how we respond to external events of history.  During Hanukkah this year 150 people openly celebrated Hanukkah in the middle of South Bend unafraid to share our joy and pride, along with many non-Jewish supporters.  When this war against Hamas is over the people of Israel and, yes, we in the Jewish Diaspora will also have a choice, to continue supporting an Israel whose government policies have clearly failed and is led now by corrupt politicians, with an actual Jewish fascist party as part of that government or to support a different approach to creating a viable and worthy Jewish state that respects the need for other peoples to establish their own national self-determination. 

Ephraim Kishon was an Israeli humorist.  Years ago, in the early days of the state he wrote a column in which he brings his European born father to the new state.  His father is unimpressed.  The state is poor.  There is nothing in young Israel that Jews don’t have better in the Diaspora.  They still live in danger.  What is the difference between Israel and any other country where Jews live?  Kishon is frustrated, he wants his father to appreciate the choice he has made to move to Israel.  Finally, he brings his father, a Holocaust survivor, to a Yom HaAtzmaut, an independence Day celebration in which an Israel Defense Forces  airplane flies over the crowd.  He turns to his father and is surprised to see tears streaming down his father’s face.  He looks at the planes and says quietly, Abba, that’s the difference.

Because of Israel, Jews are no longer the victims of history.  Our Non-Jewish friends just don’t get it.  But we do.  We get it.